Toxic Traits

In a private group that I am in this week, we discussed having toxic traits, and it got me to thinking. I can be toxic if not careful to myself and to others. Everyone has a toxic trait, in my opinion. It is how you learn to deal with those toxic traits that make it less toxic, or maybe even toxic no more. My toxic trait is that I overthink other people's reactions. I will not do something or say something because I am thinking of other people's feelings. Yes, we should think of how other people feel, but when you are thinking so much of other people's reactions that you are no longer true to who you are, it's a problem. Being too nice is a toxic trait to myself. Being so nice to other people can some times deplete my own energy because I am busy doing for other people whether it be physically or emotionally. Now that I think about it my anxiety issues have a lot to do with how I feel other people will react. The toxic trait that I sometimes push on others is expectations. I can expect others to operate in the same enthusiasm as I do, but when they don't, I will dismiss you so fast, "Oh they aren't serious", I say!. In reality, you could be serious, but we just don't work at the same pace. Then, when you are super excited about something, and I am not, I will dismiss your excitement as if it is not important. Toxic! I need to find a balance between the two. I find myself disappointed with people when they do not meet my expectations, but when I don't meet theirs, it is what is. This toxicity is a double standard and unrealistic at times. I can easily make an adjustment to this, and I will. First, I will grant people grace. Simple. Second, when it is not my assignment or whatever the care maybe, I will treat it with the same expectancy I would request from you. What are some of your toxic traits? How would you suggest flipping this toxic trait(s) into a positive?